Resolve to Live

Resolve to Live

As many of you are making your resolutions for the year, decide each day to live your life to the fullest.  Set goals that will allow you to capture the moments, to walk in your truth, and to be better than you were the day before.  You owe it to yourself to be the best you possible.

When my son was in high school, he participated on the track team.  During the season, he would spend a few hours each day practicing and conditioning for track meets.  This time was helping him to hone his skills by learning correct techniques, proper form, and regulations for competition.  However, these sessions taught him the importance developing himself.  I would often ask about how the practices were going, and he would reply that they were good.  But some days, he would state, “I set a PR today.” Initially, when I heard him say it, I questioned the meaning of PR.  He told me that PR stood for a personal record.  In preparing for competition, his coaches and trainers taught him that the goal was not to win every race. The goal was to develop himself to do his personal best.

I share this lesson with you today because the goal is not for you to win every competition. Your goal to do your best daily.  Stop looking at the accomplishments of others and making comparisons to where you are or are not.  Look within and resolve to do your best daily to set your personal records.  Learn the things that you need to hone your skills. Take small steps daily to get you to where you would like to be. Remember, the objective is not about you competing with anyone but about determining to be better than you were the day before.  You will have those days when you set personal records, when you do, remember to give yourself a pat on your back. You will also have those days when you don’t do as well, shake it off and try a little harder.  Identify your mistakes, learn from them and keep it moving.

So my thought to you today is let’s go into this new year, striving to do your personal best daily. Run the race at your pace, establishing milestones that will allow you to push harder and farther than the day before. Remember to share your accomplishments, so that we can celebrate with you. No matter what you do, resolve to live and be the best you possible.

When Things Go From Bad to Worse, You Must Dig Deeper

When Things Go From Bad to Worse, You Must Dig Deeper

digging deeper There comes a time when you are working on your goals, that you will come to a point where you can not see the results of your efforts.  You have worked and worked but to no avail. It is inevitable that on your journey, you will hit a brick wall that stops you or appears to stop you in your tracks.  As you try to continue, at every turn, you are halted in your tracks.  You try something different, it does not work as you had hoped.  My friend, this is not the time to throw in the towel.  This is not the time to quit.  This is the time dig in your heels and go deeper.

Remove every distraction and press in harder to accomplish that goal.  During this process, frustration abounds because in every instance you are already working hard, you are already pressing in, you are already giving your all.  But what you should realize, at that very moment, is that you are closer to that goal than ever before.  So dig deeper within yourself, stay focused, and push with everything in you until you see your goal come to pass.

Everything you need to accomplish what you desire is already within you, now go get it!

Sometimes You Have to Go Backwards In Order to Move Forward

When traumatic events occur in your life, you often try to suppress  your feelings and emotions to continue on with the normal routine of your life.  You begin to throw yourself into work or other tasks, as to not focus on the hurt. Before you are able to realize that you are not living up to your fullest potential, years have passed you by.  These events have a way of resurfacing through bad attitudes, mean spirits, depression, or just an overall sullen mood.  In order to move forward, you must revisit that period of time, that sad or bad place, the emotions, and the events, to begin to heal from them.

This is not an easy process but the overall goal is to move past your trauma to begin to live again.  It took me years to talk about being a survivor of domestic violence. However, there is a freedom that comes with being able to discuss the hurt that came from the hands of someone that is suppose to love and cherish you. You are not what has happened to you but who you become as a result of it:  I am a survivor!

It is time to free yourself from past hurts, past traumas, past abandonment so that you can live in this moment and enjoy the things around you. Allow yourself the freedom to revisit the past so that you will also be free to let it go.  Release the fear, shame, or hurt that is associated with the events.  If the process becomes too intense or overwhelming, please seek out assistance. You don’t have to go through it alone.  There are licensed professionals that are trained to ensure that you will come through this process better than you began it. Seek out family and friends for support and encouragement.  As Iyanla would say, “It’s time to do the work.”

Road Blocks

On your journey to your destiny, you will sometimes have to make difficult decisions. There will be people and things that are near and dear to your heart that will not be able to follow you on your journey and you will have to make tough decisions.  Do I stop pursuing the things that I was place here to do, the things that I have a heart for? Or do I put those things on hold to satisfy those who have been place in my life for this season?  There are no clear cut answers to these questions because they come with a bunch of “but what ifs.” These questions must be answered on a case by case basis.

Your decisions may not make others involved happy, however, when you have a peace about it and are able to stand with the decision you’re making then you will know that it is the right decision for you. Others may not understand why you are leaving that “good man” or that “good job” but you know that your dreams and goals for your life are more important than anything.  And if those things are truly for you, they will be there.

Road blocks may come, however, how you handle them will be totally up to you.  There is no formula for best decision-making.  So as you encounter those difficult situations, keep your head up, and do what is best for you and your future.

My Dream Reader


This blog is designed for the reader who has a burning inside of them to accomplish, something that they really want to do but have always been told that they could not for whatever the reason.  My dream reader is searching for a word that propels them to defy the odds and encourage them that they can do anything that the put their minds to. There are enough things in the world that says no, you’re not small enough or pretty enough or tall enough or pleasant enough, and so on.  At Empowered to WIN, here is where you can come and get that yes, yes you are more than enough to do those things you desire to.

Go be that fashion designer, college professor, doctor, lawyer, preacher or teacher. Dream big, the bigger the better, so when it happens all the naysayers will be able to see and know that it was in you all the time. You are that person that I writing to , to let you know that you do not need any one’s permission to live out your dream.  You can have your best life right now, all you have to do is step out on faith and believe.  I am looking for you, because I want to be right there with you when you accomplish it all.  So please feel free to post that goal that you would like to see manifest in my comments below. Boldly profess what it is that you want to do!

Moving Past Fear

I knew for some time that I wanted to start an inspirational blog, however, I delayed the process because of fear.  I did not think that I was qualified to be a blogger. No one told me that I could not; I just believed that I could not.  Yes, I allowed fear to keep me from doing what I like to do and that is inspiring others.  I would read other bloggers and think within myself, I can do that.  However, I was allowing myself to be crippled by the anticipation of danger.  You see fear is not real and all you have to do is change your mind.  As I write this entry, with every stroke of each key, I become stronger. I take back my dream of writing, of sharing nuggets of truth, to aid you in breaking free from the grips of fear.

Today, I challenge you to do one thing that you have been afraid to do. As you are doing it, assess your feelings, your emotions before you do it, while doing it, and after it has been completed.  Was there really a reason to be fearful or was it merely a perception of danger?

Do not be fearful nor discouraged, step out and accomplish your dream.  With each step, you will become stronger, empowered to continue on your journey to success. Even when you have setbacks, they will propel you further, if you do not give up. So what are you waiting for, it is time to go after your dreams!